Dealing with family therapy can be a very trying experience. It can often be difficult to make the breakthrough that you seek. Therefore, it is imperative that the therapist use all of the means at his disposal in order to achieve positive results as quickly as possible. A therapist who ignores some of the tools available to him is only shooting himself in the foot and doing a disservice to the parties he is trying, or supposed to be, helping. Aaron Wolasky Therapy takes advantage of all the opportunities that the parties present to the therapist.
Aaron Wolasky Focuses On Communication Observation
One of the primary tools in the toolbox of a family therapist is to observe the communication between the two conflicted parties. Communication between the two sides can reveal a great deal of information to a trained observer who is sensitive enough to pick up on them.
When dealing with the complexities of family dynamics we have to keep in mind that there are two different types of communication. Direct and indirect. Or, in other terms, verbal and non-verbal.
Direct, or verbal, communication are actual words that one party directs to the other. Indirect, or nonverbal communication are the silent cues and facial and body expressions that one party uses in reference to the other. This can be in the form of a scowl, raised eyebrows or even a seemingly innocent shrug of the shoulder.
To an untrained observer many of the nonverbal cues may appear to be trivial at worst and completely innocuous at best. After all, how bad can a shrug of the shoulder be?
But this is because the observer doesn’t have the training or expertise to really grasp what is taking place. A seemingly innocently raised eyebrow can really be full of anger and frustration. You have to be a therapist that is very attuned to the situation in order to pick up on this You have to have a firm grasp of the family history and the source and causes of the conflict.
If you understand all of that you will begin to recognize that these non-verbal forms of speech can oftentimes contain a lot more information that verbal, or direct speech. They can show you what specifically causes the person to be angry and frustrated at a very deep level.
The verbal talk is only an indicator of superficial anger or distrust possibly. It is not a proof of a deeper level of anger. However, the non-verbal speech is the language of the subconscious. The real person. The real anger.
If a therapist is a true expert, such as Aaron Wolasky, then he can use these cues to really figure out where his work should be directed. He will begin to understand the real story. What the angry party is really angry about. And once this is understood real and lasting healing can begin. The anger and distrust and even frustrations of the past can be dealt with effectively, leaving both parties in a much better place.